When you have privileges, “staying home” is hard. But when you don’t, what’s “hard” for others can be legitimately threatening to your mental health, physical health, or even life in ways that COVID-19 risk pales to in comparison for you.
We ARE all in this boat together. But we all brought our own stories and unique lives to the boat. Public health advice and directives are issued to try and cover as many people as possible in the boat and keep it from capsizing, but only time will tell if we chose the right collective direction, the right collective boat.
In any case, it is ESSENTIAL that we offer ourselves and others kindness, compassion, and non-judgement. It is ESSENTIAL that we CHOOSE LOVE. <3
Yes, flowers can bloom after a fire burns through a forest but that doesn't mean you have to love the fire. There is no lesson learned through pain that isn't more easily learned through love and you can love an outcome without loving a process. You do not have to be grateful for the trauma that made you who you are.
Who knew what a decade would bringTen years ago, if I could have glimpsed myself as I am today, I think perhaps I'd have been surprised. Not straight up shocked, as the seeds were already there, but surprised at how they grow. In December 2009 I'd been married 1.5 years and Nathan's absolute love for me was changing everything. Our souls found each other, merged, and their combined fire protects us, fuels us, and lights our path forward. We choose every day to tend this shared flame with the utmost of care. In 2009 we lived in a small one...
In our home, we don't put the school system or the ability to instantly recall facts on a pedestal. Competition with others is irrelevant. Comparison with others makes us miserable. Learning is for fun and practical purpose. Some people don't understand, or think I'm stupid, or think I'm doing my kids a disservice. Some "disagree" with our approach. So be it. In our home, we believe children are fully human NOW and deserve to be treated as such NOW so that's how our priorities are set. Think less of me if you will, my kids are worth it.